7 Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:
8 For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.
Jokes abound when it comes to the subject of how impossible it is for men to understand women. My husband and I were speaking with a couple in our flock one evening when this very topic arose. An older husband had the most incredulous look on his face as I explained how quickly unchecked emotions, driven by fear, can reduce women into a puddle of tears. In just a single millisecond, I explained that I could have my “late/tardy” husband mangled in a ditch on the side of a road, dying in a hospital bead alone, stuffed inside a coffin, buried at the local cemetery, the house repossessed, and myself receiving a ten-year service award at the local iHop, where I worked nights to support myself.
Yes ladies, we are an enigma, sometimes even to ourselves, but if the truth be told, often times when it comes to our men, we are just as clueless. We are emotional creatures, wearing every feeling, presumption, and crisis we encounter on our sleeve. We want to air it all out, and ‘talk” until we feel the issue is resolved, but this isn’t how the typical man handles life, stress, anxiety, trials, and failure. They are peculiarly silent creatures, but their silence in no way indicates they have life under control. I can’t comprehend how my husband bears the weight of running his business, providing for his family, and keeping me content and happy with any time left over to take care of his own physical, spiritual, & emotional needs. I look at this world and the unabashed assault satan wages against the leaders of our homes and I am horrified yet if the truth be told, despite what I see, I can not begin comprehend the magnitude or scale of the spiritual warfare my husband endures on a daily basis.
My husband is the authority of our home, and the spiritual head over me, just as Christ is the head of the church. If satan was evil, brash, and rebellious enough to oppose Christ by hanging His Son on the Cross, he will not spend any less effort to destroy our men, homes, lives, and marriage? The accuser despises the Glory of the Father and He is literally “hell-bent” to rid any semblance of God’s presence here on earth. Our marriages and our lives display the wondrous glory and power of Christ at work. We are images of the Son. Our lives are examples and a testimony of the redemptive work of the Father in the lives of sinful fallen man. Satan loathes us and he despises our men because of this. Simply put, our men are clothed in bright red bulls-eyes each and every day.
If David was drafted into the army and shipped to the most dangerous battlefield on earth, I think I would struggle to live a normal life because I would want to be on my face praying for him 24/7. Ladies, my man has been drafted and he is in battle. Satan is out to kill, steal, and destroy the life, fruit, and work of our men, family, and homes! Sadly my prayer life does not always reflect the gravity this spiritual reality.
Praise be to God for the work of His Spirit, for “greater is He that is in us than he who is in this world.” Hallelujah and thanksgiving to our Loving Father for “he has given us all things that pertain to life and godliness.” This corrupt body of flesh has been put to death and victory is ours. Our Father stands with all we need and with every ounce of power and grace that our husbands need to stand, fight, endure, and conquer but there is something He has called us to do, “Watch and pray.”
Vigilance and sober mindedness is my calling. To see with spiritual eyes, the battles that truly matter is my goal. The ability to discern the true enemies of my life, marriage, and home, the ones capable of destroying not the body, but the spirit, is my duty. When it comes to comprehending the battles and temptations my husband has to fight today, while I might be clueless, I am not powerless and I am definitely hot hopeless.
As I begin day 1 of prayer for my husband I am simply crying out to the Lord, “ASKING” Him for wisdom. I do not know how to pray for my husband, and I do not always know what to pray for him, but the King of Creation, who sees all does! I need the wisdom and discernment of the Holy Spirit to help me navigate through the emotions, fears, and weaknesses that oftentimes gets in the way of the Truth of His word and the reality of my husband’s true needs.
Oh Father, you knit the substance and essence of my husband together and He is the glorious work our you hands. You are his Creator and you know and understand his heart in ways I never can. You have a purpose and plan for his life beyond what I could ever fathom or comprehend and you have given me the precious gift of walking along side him as He discovers this amazing calling. You delight greatly in David, and it has pleased you to bring glory and honor to yourself by redeeming him and calling him your son. Father, give me wisdom and discernment as I lift him up in prayer. Lord let my prayers for Him be a sweet offering of faith and love to you. Give me wisdom to navigate through my own weaknesses, fears, and failures so that I can be to him the help meet you have designed me to be. You have declared that if I ask, it will be given, that if I seek, I will find. Lord I am asking for the wisdom and grace I need to be the prayer warrior I am called to be. Thank you for hearing my cry, and for the transforming work you are accomplishing in my life, our home, and our marriage. Amen